Often, assumptions can be at the core of most conflict and angst, we can assume too much or too little about a person, or situation, we make up our own meaning, narrative or stories.
Instead of assumptions I have taken to applying a new habit, asking questions.
It just cuts through so much potential time wasted on making the wrong assumptions. I have written some of the questions I use often to gain better understanding about situations I encounter, below.
I have found a good assumption to make is:
Everyone is doing the best they can, with the information, time and resources they have available right now. Including myself.
Once you assume that about someone or a situation, it gives you the freedom to look at anything from a new perspective, from that place of new perspective you can ask a KEY question or two, to move to a place of better understanding.