I, like many of you, have lived through loss enough times to recognise grief. I was wondering why my moods and emotions seemed to have at least 4 seasons in one day, why my emotions were close to the surface and triggers seemed like they were everywhere.
Being that independent, take charge of my life person, I kept trying to snap myself out of it. Then it hit me yesterday, I am grieving, in fact, we all are! and its OK.
When someone passes away in our lives, that is a grief that we understand, talk about and accept. This global crisis has brought about some unfamiliar territory for us all. We are not used to talking about grief in relation to something like this, because none of us have ever experienced this before.
From a professional prospective - Grieving for the life we had mapped out, the jobs we had, career paths we were on, the meaningful work and/or colleagues we have lost, and for those who still have to work in the front line, your jobs will have changed significantly. If you take a moment to just rest in that, list out the loss you feel right now either personally or for others around you, it may just bring some perspective around how you may have been feeling or like me, fighting back feeling.
Grief is a natural human response to loss, and can bring about new perspectives, learning and insights that can shape our future, but you can't get to that good stuff until you have acknowledged and processed the grief.
It is also a very personal thing, everyone deals with and processes grief differently. What works for one person doesn't work for another, and the time it takes is also very personal.
Here is an IDEA: Let judgement of our selves and others drop right now, have no expectations about how we or other people process what is happening.
If this doesn't resonate for you personally, develop an awareness that many others around you, co workers, managers, team members may be grieving. Some may know it and others may be unaware, that this is what is happening to them and it is OK.
HOW do you know? You ask, connect with people on a personal level and individually, reach out. These are unusual times which require an unusual level of connection and care.
Some of the things you may experience or see in others are:
Emotional Symptoms of Grieving
What do you do with that information?
Allow time and space for yourself and others to acknowledge their grief, to express emotions in a healthy way. If you or others need additional help right now to process this, then reach out, either for yourself or to assist others.
When emotions are acknowledged, shared and worked through we can start to get to the other side of them, we can start to look forward even for just today and realise that we are not alone, that someone cared enough to ask and listen.
By doing this you or those around you will experience HOPE - this is a basic human need for survival, hope is what helps us put one foot in front of the other and move forward.
The future is on the opposite side of the bridge from grief, we need HOPE to get across that bridge.
Be that HOPE for yourself and others around you. What we are going through right now will pass - and go down in history for what it was.
The empowering thing is, we can choose how we think, feel and process our own journey and how we support others through theirs.
Stay well, stay safe, be brave and kind enough to yourself and others to lean in, acknowledge, understand and process emotions in a way that empowers and strengthens us all individually and collectively.