The dictionary says this about the word ‘overwhelm’ means:
To bury or drown beneath a huge mass of something, especially water.
When everything closes in – the dark place of overwhelm.
For some this is a familiar place to end up on a frequent basis, usually the symptom of entrepreneurs or working parents, but many others also suffer this unproductive and uncomfortable state, too often.
If you have ever felt confused, weighed down, stressed and grumpy by a never ending list of things to do, swimming around in your foggy head, chances are you have experienced what many call ‘overwhelm’.
For me and those around me this is not a good place for me to be in, mentally or physically. I forget things, don’t sleep well past 4am, find myself snappy and irritable, and in a constant state of stress. This ‘head space’ is usually very unproductive.
Here are 5 things I have found that can lift the fog and help refocus energy and time:
- Why am I involved in this?
- Why did I say Yes?
- Is this part of my overall purpose in life?
- Does this energise me or drain me?
- Why am I holding on to it?
What to consider BEFORE saying YES to new things:
- What REAL time is involved in this?
- Do I have the time easily available?
- What will I have to move off my diary in order to fit this in? (NOTE If is YOU time that needs to move, seriously consider saying NO)
- What is my motive for saying yes?
You can pay people, barter time or ask a favour, depending on what it is there is always a way to get some help with the things that are on your plate that you can’t get rid of. This frees you up to get on with the things that energise you and are part of your overall purpose in life.
I don’t like housework, I like getting help with this on a regular basis and giving chores to my kids, does this mean I never do it? NO, It all just doesn’t land on me and that feels good.
Final note: YOU are important, that is why they say in the flight emergency briefing put YOUR OWN oxygen mask on first before attending to children, WHY? Because if you stop breathing you are NO good to anyone. You have stuff to do in this world that only you can do, and when you are living in balance to the best of your ability most of the time you are WAY more effective, productive, have better health, relationships and enjoy life rather than just get through each day.